My husband and I were divorced 15 years ago, and we recently rekindled the relationship. Now we're engaged and I don't know whether to give him the same wedding ring I gave him 15 years ago or get a new one.

Melt it down and have it reshaped and give it back to him. New marriage, old ring, best of both worlds.

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Personally, I would get new wedding bands, to symbolize a fresh new start. However, that does not necessarily mean you should throw out your old wedding bands. Besides the idea of melting the two bands down and using the materials to make new rings, you could use the metals to create new jewelry such as necklaces, pendants or earrings. Also, you could simply wear the old wedding bands as pendants, strung on a chain, that way you won't forget the past but it won't be so visible displayed on your finger, acting as a constant reminder of what went wrong.

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That's definitely a conundrum, especially if you're not sure whether he's getting you a new wedding band. If I were you, I would bring it up with your husband and the two of you should decide together whether you want to exchange your original wedding rings or get each other new ones. It's a nice idea to use the original rings because they already have so much sentimental value, but on the other hand you may want new wedding rings to symbolize a new start. Another idea is to use the same materials from the original rings and have them melted down together and designed into two new rings – that way you have keep the sentimental values of the original wedding rings, but have something symbolically new to make a fresh start with.

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Wait, how do you have the wedding ring you gave him 15 years ago in your possession? If you took it back after you got divorced, I definitely would NOT give it to him again. That is just bad luck.

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I agree that the two of you should decide together. If you're going to make the marriage work the second time around, its best to start off with a mutual agreement and an open discussion. I think he'll be thankful to you for bringing it up because he probably doesn’t know what to do either. Personally, however, I recommend that you both buy new wedding bands, but wear them together with the old wedding bands to acknowledge what you've been through together.

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