My boyfriend proposed to me with the diamond engagement ring that used to belong to his grandmother. The only thing is, it's hideous! I hate it! It's the gaudiest ring I've ever seen. What should I do???

If you feel uncomfortable with your fiancé's grandmother's old diamond engagement ring then I think your best policy would be to honestly tell him that the ring isn't to your liking. I mean, you wouldn't want to have to wear an engagement ring you hate on your ring finger, where it is extremely visible. If I were you, I would tell my fiancé about my misgivings regarding his grandmother's diamond engagement ring. A marriage should be based on honesty, so perhaps it would be best if you start your life together with a little frankness. If you insist on keeping the fact that you dislike his grandmother's diamond engagement ring hidden, then I suggest you wear her diamond engagement ring till your wedding day, and after your nuptials, tell your boyfriend that you prefer wearing your wedding band since your engagement is over. Or, if he still insists you wear his grandmother's engagement ring, then perhaps you can subtly hint that you'd love to wear the ring but that you'd prefer to have the diamonds re-set into a ring setting that you like. You could also wear his grandmother's diamond engagement ring, but as a pendant hanging from a precious metal chain. That way you'd still be wearing the ring, but it'd remain hidden under your clothes.

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You have to be extra tactful on this one. You don't want to sound like an unappreciative spoiled brat complaining about your diamond engagement ring right off the bat. But on the other hand, I'm sure your fiance would rather you have an engagement ring that you truly love instead of loathe. You might want to wait until after you two are married to bring it up, because right now when everything is still fresh and exciting, it might seem rude to air your complaints. On the other hand, this is probably the time when everyone you know is oohing and aahing about your diamond engagement ring and asking about your engagement at every opportunity. I'm sure you'd prefer to have an engagement ring that you feel proud of instead of one that makes you want to crawl under the floor boards. Goodness, you're really in a bind. Anyway, as soon as you get up the guts, you should tell your fiance that you love him very much and that being married to him is the most wonderful thing that you can imagine, and that you know the ring is important to him and his family - but it is a little flashy or extravagant for you. You might say that you don't feel as comfortable as you would like to wearing his engagement ring, and that you think you would feel so much more comfortable with an engagement ring that was a bit more modest. You can suggest having the ring made smaller, or changing the shape slightly so that it better suits you. Don't make him think that you want a whole new engagement ring, because that might really hurt his feelings and I'm sure that's not your intention at all. Be nice and sensitive, and hope for the best. I got my fingers crossed for you doll.

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