Diamond & Jewelry News, Advice and Prices for Consumers
Diamond & Jewelry News, Advice and Prices for Consumers
August 4, 2010
My grandmother always told me that the ring would be mine someday, ever since I was a little kid, so I always felt like it already was mine. Now I feel like I was given a gift of something that already belongs to me. I am being a spoiled brat, or is it legitimate for me to feel this way?
August 9, 2010
Sounds to me like you're being a spoiled brat! A marriage proposal is supposed to be about love and commitment, not about greed. What do you care if he picked out the diamond engagement ring or not? It is the thought that counts. He made a really courageous and significant step in his life by asking you to marry him, and THAT'S what getting engaged is all about - NOT just the ring. Plus, you have a gorgeous antique diamond engagement ring to show off, so what exactly are you complaining about? Get a grip, girl.
August 7, 2010
I can see what you mean. It might feel like sort of a let down to get a diamond engagement ring that isn't new to you, because getting engaged is about new beginnings and going out of your way to make each other happy. A lot of girls dream about being proposed to since they're kids, of a handsome prince getting down on one knee and holding out a glamorous diamond engagement ring that whisks them into another world. However, I don't think there is much you can say about the diamond ring that will sound rational to your fiance - and won't be so insulting as to chase him right out the door - I'm assuming that's not your intention. So live with it hon, and let's hope he gets you a real nice wedding ring.
August 5, 2010
Take a minute to think about what exactly it is about getting a second-hand diamond engagement ring that bothers you: do you think your fiance is being cheap or ungenerous because he didn't lay down any money to get you a diamond engagement ring? Are you afraid that this is indicative of miserliness and you're afraid of what that might mean for the rest of your marriage? Or maybe you resent that fact that he didn't invest any time or effort into choosing the diamond engagement ring, and you're concerned that this might mean he's not caring and attentive enough? Maybe you are actually more angry at your mother, for being controlling and interfering with the romantic side of your life, where she doesn't belong? Maybe you feel your boyfriend was too much of a pushover in accepting the diamond engagement ring, and this makes him seem weak and unmanly in your view. Whatever is at the root of your resentmentover the diamond ring, you and your fiance should definitely try to iron things out before you tie the knot. It not a good idea to start your life together overcast by resentment that will only fester and get worse.
