I have never own or worn a single piece of jewelry, and I seem to dread just the thought of having to wear a wedding ring for the rest of my life. Is it normal for me to feel this way?

I used to feel exactly the same as you, but now I feel totally different about my wedding band. When I chose my wedding ring, my wife (then fiancée) really helped me pick it out, and I was very lucky that she was there with me. Otherwise, I would never have known what to think of all the different rings the jeweler showed me, and god knows what I would have ended up with. So, the first piece of advice I can give you is to take your fiancée with you to the jewelry store when you pick out your wedding band! She will be able pick out something really nice for you that you will like, because she has to have good taste if she chose you as her future husband, no? LOL, but seriously, let's face it - women just understand better in jewelry than we could ever imagine. Anyway, my wife and I ended up choosing a pretty thick solid platinum ring, which could endure the rough lifestyle I have, as I do a lot of work with my hands. I must admit that it took some time to get used to it, but now I can't even tell if I'm wearing the ring or not, since it has become such an integral part of me. I can honestly say that I love wearing my wedding band, because every time I look at it I'm reminded of what it represents. I believe that in the future you will be able to feel the same as I do right now, so you shouldn't feel too anxious about this whole thing.

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You seem to have raised a very touchy subject, and you are most definitely not alone on this. While most women cherish their wedding rings and take pleasure in showing them off to the rest of the world, most men actually feel completely different. They seem to regard wedding rings as a necessary evil, something that they know they cannot avoid and must be faced at one point or another during a stage in their lives. It is the simple truth that guys are not too keen on fine jewelry and most of them, just like you, did not have the chance to wear a single piece of jewelry their entire lives. Yet, they still want to honor the tradition of marriage and show their commitment to the relationship by wearing a wedding band, which means that they are faced with a tricky dilemma. So let me ease your worries by first telling you that there are a lot of guys out there who feel exactly the same as you. And secondly, by telling you that jewelers are well aware of the fact that most men simply haven't got the slightest clue about what kind of wedding bands they need to choose. That is why over the years jewelers have created a large array of men's wedding bands to choose from, covering virtually every kind of style you could think of. When you go to the jewelry store, the jeweler will most probably show you an initial selection to begin with, so that he can determine which styles you find most appealing. Make sure to bring your fiancee along with you to the jewelry store, because her opinion could not only be important, but also very helpful for you to make up your mind. Make sure that when you look at the rings, you also try them on your ring finger in order to see if they actually feel comfortable as well. However, bear in mind that seeing as you have never worn a ring on your finger, you might need to get used to the feeling at first. It might take some time, but eventually you will find the perfect ring for you – something that will probably be subtle, masculine and not too flashy. Just like any other married man could tell you, the ring kind of "grows on you" as the years go by, and sooner or later it will become a part of you, as opposed to something foreign and odd. So although it might seem a bit intimidating at first, there is really nothing to worry about.

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