Is it obligatory for me to wear a wedding band? I thought that only women were supposed to wear wedding rings!

Men's wedding bands have only been seen in the past few decades, so that is probably the reason why you haven't heard of this so-called wedding band "tradition". I personally chose not to comply with this ridiculous new age nonsense and I can proudly say that I am not wearing a wedding band on my finger. Let's face it – jewelry is designed for women, not men. Whenever I see a man wearing a ring on his finger, I immediately think he might be gay or a "metro sexual" type of guy. My wife never expected me to wear a wedding band, because she is aware of the fact that I am a self respecting man who cannot bear even the thought of wearing jewelry! If your wife is in her right mind like mine is, she will not push this matter further than it deserves. Not wearing a wedding ring on your finer, or being a "naked finger" as we are sometimes referred to, doesn't necessarily mean that we are looking to cheat, like people might automatically think. Sure, I am not naive and I am well aware of the fact that there are a lot of naked fingers out there who do not wear their wedding rings for this purpose alone, but you shouldn't make the generalization. I chose to be a naked finger because I do not wish to be labeled a married man right off the bat. I enjoy striking up a conversation with someone without having to fit into a clear stereotype. If I had a wedding ring on my finger, s/he would immediately fill in the blanks for me, which I absolutely despise. In my opinion a wedding band simply looks better on a woman then it could ever look like on a man, so why even bother?

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First of all, you are not obliged to do anything against your own will. There are no set of strict rules that dictate what a man should or should not do when it comes to wedding rings – no officer will arrest you if you are not wearing a wedding band. Having said that, you should be aware of the fact that not wearing a wedding band when you are in fact married could raise a few eyebrows. Most women will unanimously agree that a married man who doesn't wear his wedding ring might indicate that he has adulterous intentions on his mind. It is best to spare unnecessary ambiguity and wear the wedding ring on your finger as a statement of your marital status. Again, if you choose not to do so you might cause suspicion and your wife would be genuinely worried about your refusal to do so. If you expect your wife to wear a wedding band as a symbol of your marriage, why can't you honor her and do the same? It seems only fair in this day and age that equality is reached and both the husband and wife feel proud to show to the world that they are committed to one another.

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An immediate response to your question will be that you are not obliged to wear a wedding ring. However, I can't help but wonder why you are so afraid of to wear one. Your fiancée might feel worried that you are unwilling to publically show to the world that you are married. If I were you, I wouldn’t share these thoughts with her, as she might find this quite insulting. You say that you are excited about getting married to your fiancée, so I can only assume that you are genuinely interested in getting married to her, thus I don't see why you wouldn't want to wear a wedding band around your finger. I wasn't too keen at first either, simply because I've never worn jewelry beforehand, but you get used to it very fast. Therefore, you shouldn't feel so apprehensive about wearing a wedding band – it is quite undemanding.

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Despite the common believe, husbands wearing wedding rings has only become a custom just recently in the middle of the twentieth century. Prior to this it was regarded as only necessary for a woman to wear a wedding band, perhaps in order to mark their status as a possession. When World War II broke loose many men, who were away for their wives for extended periods of time, started wearing their rings as a symbol of their marriage and reminder of their wives. But in today's ever growing aspiration of equality, there is simply no reason why a man shouldn't wear a wedding ring as well. By the way, the man's wedding band is worn in the same finger as the woman's – that is the third finger on the left.

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