Should the wedding band be chosen by my fiancée as a surprise, or should I pick it out myself?

I personally would want to pick out my own wedding band. It's not the kind of thing that you want to exchange after your vows are said. You want to have the ring from your ceremony be the ring that accompanies you throughout your lifetime with him. It's really great that he did well the first time around with the engagement ring. Lucky girl! But bear in mind that it is very acceptable to exchange an engagement ring if you don't love it. Don't take the chance with your wedding ring. It's so much more symbolic. Plus if you will be wearing it forever you want to make sure that it fits just right and that it's comfortable for you and your lifestyle. 

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While it is traditional to surprise a girlfriend by buying her a diamond engagement ring, I have never heard of a guy buying a wedding band as a surprise to his fiancée. But now that I come to think of it, how hard could it be? I mean, if he managed to choose her a diamond engagement ring all by his own, how hard could it be to choose a simple wedding band?! The wedding band does not entail as much consideration and thought as choosing an engagement ring involves, such as diamond size, ring design, choice of settings, etc. So I say, why shouldn't your fiancée surprise you with buying you the wedding band? It is only a simple strip of metal, I am sure that if he had enough good taste to choose an engagement ring that you love, he would do the same with the wedding band. But this means that you will have to surprise him in return with his wedding band, no? So don't go overboard with his ring, remember that guys like it clean and simple, avoid buying him anything tacky. And if worst comes to worst, you could always exchange the wedding rings at the jewelry store, so just make sure that they have a satisfactory exchange policy before purchasing anything with them.

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You should most definitely take part in choosing your own wedding band. Even if you are pleased with the choice of the diamond engagement ring your fiancée bought you (which you very much seem to be), do not take the chance of your fiancée getting it wrong the second time around. When you decide to purchase your wedding bands, just go the jewelry store together. You will be able to choose both your wedding bands together at the same time, to suit your own specific taste. Apart from the practical aspect behind going to the jewelry store together and getting exactly what you want, there is also a very sentimental aspect to going to choose your wedding bands together. Buying your wedding bands together will build up your enthusiasm and anticipation when you realize that you are a step closer to the wedding itself.

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In contrast to the tradition of the engagement ring, which is chosen solely by your man as a surprise, a wedding band is often chosen together by both the man and the woman. This is mainly due to the fact that the wedding band is something that you will be wearing every day for the rest of your life (or the duration of your marriage at least), and so it is important to take the time and thought of choosing the most suitable one for you. Such an important decision needs to be done very carefully and that is why you both people in the relationship need to be there together. A lot of couples opt for a wedding ring set, meaning a "his & hers" matching wedding bands. It could be a very nice idea, but again you must both be keen on the design before going ahead and buying it. Do not by any means impose your taste on your fiancée – remember that his decision counts as well. He most probably never wore this kind of precious jewelry before, so he must feel comfortable with the wedding band of his choice. This gives you all the more reason to pick out the wedding bands together. Good luck with everything and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

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